Time to Get Real...
December 2016
Waiting for a soulmate can be difficult sometimes. I hear people make comments that sound angry, bitter, sad, or full of resignation that love will not be found. I always say that you can be lonely and yet you have to find peace within the loneliness as you wait for love to find you. The question I ask of anyone looking for love is this...what are you doing in the meantime as you wait? Are you doing the things you want to do like getting that education you need? Are you in a job that fulfills you or is it time to advance in the company? Are you the best version of you right now? Someone, somewhere, is dreaming and praying for a partner and you could be the answer to that person's prayer. Life should never be put on hold because you are waiting for love to come. No one can "complete" you, you have to be whole and independent in yourself. While you are waiting you have the opportunity to grow emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually as well. Successful relationships are built on a foundation of friendship, trust, and commitment to name a few. Relationships that have longevity are ones in which partners readily admit mistakes and can say the words "I'm sorry" and "Forgive me" quickly and sincerely. The ability to show empathy and being able to listen with interest is also a sign of caring and respect. Another important ingredient to maintaining a successful relationship is being independent and having friends and hobbies that give you much needed "me" time away from your partner. If you are serious about finding love, spend your waiting time productively in preparation. There is a difference between feeling desperate and needy versus feeling lonely but at peace. No one can fill the void inside you and it's not healthy to use any relationship as a crutch. Don't lose hope, don't stop living, love will come at the right time...be productive as you wait for love to find you!